The more I learn, the less I understand

Well, it's been a life time since I last wrote. It feels like it anyway. I have a new G'baby who's had a devil of a time! And her sister who's had to stay away from her, and away from her Mom, because she has had a cold.

 

I've been trying to fill in where I can, but I am sure it isn't the same. And Mom has had hormonal super surges that can make ME want to hide. Poor Ist daughter, 7 yrs old and she is convinced her Mom hates her. But she is still so excited about her Baby Sister she hasn't been able to be around.

 

First new Baby had to be re-admitted into the hosp because she wasn't waking up right. She was slightly jaundiced, but other than that they don't know why. The fact that Mom's Dr. hadn't taken her off of NARCOTICS, and she is breastfeeding, seems to have nothing to do with it.... come one, lets use logic... if a nursing mother can't eat chocolate nor onions because it comes through to the baby, what in the F*** makes them think NARCOTICS doesn't???? I think the poor little baby was drugged. Will anyone admit to it? No. Doesn't take a rocket scientist....

 

She was kept for 4 days, on an IV. Within the first 8 hours there was marked improvement. All they did was start her on antibiotics (and Mom stopped the pain meds). If it were an infection, 8 hrs wouldn't show that much improvement. And after they had pricked and prodded that little 4 day old baby, they wanted a spinal tap to check for meningitis. First Dr tried twice, couldn't do it. Call another Dr., he tried twice couldn't do it. Called in an EXPERT and he tried and couldn't do it. Scheduled another try in 24 hrs. We counted eight needle marks on that baby's back. Eight. They not only lied to us, they wanted to prick her some more. I have never had the procedure done to me, but my understanding is, it hurts like a mother. This baby was 4 days old. This was supposed to be a model hospital. New Mom told them they weren't going to try again. The Dr. put a guilt trip you wouldn't believe on her poor heart. "We'll just have to keep her for 24 days hooked up to the IV and treat it as if it were Spinal Meningitis if you don't!". Now, this is a day later. She is eating fine. Waking up to play. Tired, but understandably so.

 

In my opinion, they were no more aware they were treating a human being than a wooden post. Everytime she was examined, it was a different Dr. How would they be able to judge anything about her?  Did they keep her for 24 days? No. Was it a ploy for more intrusive medical procedures to rack up their bill? Or was it not necessary? All the other tests came back good. Or did the insurance company refuse the additional tests? AND, when new Mom asked for the names of all the Drs who had treated her, she was told she would need to go the Hall of Records to get that information. Give me a break.

 

Now New Mom and New Dad are paranoid something really is wrong with their precious new family member. New Mom called me over at 11:30 the other night to check her breathing. Is it too rapid? too shallow? Raspy? Could it be Wet Lung? Or this could also be a symptom of Spinal Meningitis too..... They are so traumatized. What I believe she wanted was reassurance and faith that everything would be fine. 

 

New Big Sister feels like a leper because she can't come out of her room, and when she does she's met with sharp commands to go back and stop breathing in the livingroom, kitchen, etc. because she might contaminate the air and make her Baby Sister sick.

 

So much for the happy home coming. The formation and bonding of a new family. I am so angry for them, I could spit nails. Hopefully in a week or two, the joy can start. I'm praying it will.